This is a major step in a relationship so that the first impression can be lasting.
1. PLAYING WITH YOUR PHONE
Avoid being on your phone, texting, checking your mail, facebooking or chatting. Sometimes most of us do it unknowingly. Some chicks indeed do that just to keep themselves busy, but your spouse’s parents might feel dismissed and think you are not interested in getting to know them, especially, the would-be mother-in-law. So avoid your phone that first time.
2. LIE TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK GOOD
Being fake instead of who you truly are is a mistake that can upset your partner’s parents and even your partner. Remember, they may get to know who you are later or in your absence, and it could hurt your relationship. If you have told your partner the truth about you and your partner has accepted the kind of person you are, his parents should be able to do the same. So there is no need to lie to attract their likeness.
3. BRINGING UP A CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION
Please don’t bring up a topic like Religion, Politics, or Sex for discussion, even if you know that your beliefs are in line with your partner’s parents. Some people still consider it bad to bring up such topics for discussion before them. Concentrate on getting to know them more rather than those topics. If they keep discussing such topics among themselves, do more of listening.
4. MAKE YOUR SPEECHES BRIEF
Even though they are very interested in getting to know you they also do not want to spend the entire time listening to your life story. Don’t tell them stories about how your father divorced your mother when you were a teenager, how your community people burnt a woman to ashes for insulting her hubby, and all that. Make your speeches brief and interesting, please.
5. PUBLIC DISPLAY AFFECTION
Yes, public displays of affection can be wonderful, but there is an appropriate time for it. This does not mean you have to become cold, distant and robotic. Feel relaxed, interact with them gently, smile and be friendly, but make it neutral, rather than behaving as if you are desperate to have them as in-laws.
6. DON’T FINISH ANY FOOD GIVEN TO YOU
Whether the food is small or plenty, no matter how delicious, don’t finish it all. Never ask for alcohol if you are asked to choose a drink. Don’t be carried away. This is very important.
7. Don’t spend the night in their house on your first day of visit unless there are no alternatives.